Remapping Goals and Avoiding Spare Tires

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Do you ever feel like a spare tire speedily rolling down the street at first but then slowing down and finally just collapsing?

Kind of like this one:

I think we all do at some point. We get an opportunity. You’re on fire. No one is stopping you. You might hit a few bumps here and there and get yelled at by a crazy ex, but you have the momentum. Eventually your tire makes a wrong turn, hits a dead-end or just loses control and you spin in circles. And just like that- you’re still. People who enjoy the momentum of spare tires don’t like being still. So what do you do?

Re-map out your goals.
I am very goal oriented. I like to know where I want to be in 5 years, 10 years and even 20 years. I have my goals on Pinterest boards, on an inspiration board above my work desk, tucked away in Chrome bookmarks and in old fashioned notebooks. I’m visual, obviously, and I need to be reminded! Because just like everyone else, I get distracted.

So every now and then, I’ll pull out my notebook and make a goal map. Yours could look differently. Mine has a place to write out professional and personal goals and if they are short or long term. I carry over on the next page and write out things I need to do to get shit done, literally. I like my goals to cover all aspects of my life: God, being a mother, DATING (why did I all caps that?) and my career. I will probably reference this a few times throughout the year and I might even re-remap in 6 months or so. It’s just nice to remind yourself where you are, where you want to be and how you’re getting there.

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Pro Tip: Have a glass of wine (or two) and put on a good playlist. The Red Wine Over Dinner Spotify playlist sounds insanely cheesy, but it is super sexy… I mean motivating!

Cheers,

Jordan

What I Know Now as a Mother That I Wish I Knew 5 Years Ago

I am so far from having this mom gig figured out. And just like any other mom, I am learning everyday. There is SO much they don’t tell you when you enter the world of motherhood and there is so much left out of all of those parenting books… (not that I read any of them). It is always the small and simple things that help you tremendously. And you usually learn those things the hard way. (hi.) Here is what I have figured out over time that I wish I knew when Carson was a baby…

 

Don’t over do it. That ginorm 1st birthday party that they will never remember… was it worth all of that money? For me? Nope. There are going to be SO many expenses that magically pop up as your little one gets older; save that money!

Find a steady balance in your career and the mom gig. It is extremely important to be able to provide for your family and make a career for yourself, especially if you’re doing this on your own. You might have to make some sacrifices at home and at work. You will learn when to take time off and when to work late.

If you can, get the maid. Even if she comes once every other month, it will help keep you sane.

Don’t compete with other moms. Your kid will ALWAYS be better than her kid. No need to make that a competition…

Don’t forget to take care of YOURSELF. Go get a massage. Get your rest. Go to the dentist. Get your work outs in. Take time for yourself.

You are going to get frustrated. The way you react to your frustrations will reflect onto your kid.

Tell them how proud you are of them daily.  Everyone needs some positive reassurance every now and then (I know I do) and kids need it that much more. And again, it’s the little things. Tell them they did a great job cleaning the table off. That they were so brave during that storm. That they finished their homework all by themselves.

Be a tough lover. It is important to be tough on them, give them high expectations and don’t back down… not even when they give you that look… You know what look I’m talking about! But when you are tough on them, remind them how much you love them and hug and kiss them.

Know when to say no. You will have plans with friends you will have to turn down. You might not be able to buy those shoes. It probably isn’t a good idea for the kiddo to eat that whole bag of Sour Patch Kids.

Know when to say yes. Take a night off and go out with your girlfriends! You worked your ass off on that project, buy the shoes. It’s Friday night, let him eat the candy. You see what I did there?

Speaking of girlfriends, focus on your core girlfriends. You no longer have time to be a socialite and keep up with all of those acquaintances. Your core girlfriends will respect you and your struggle as a mother. They shouldn’t expect you to pick up the bar tab, to go on Saturday shopping sprees and to go out regularly.

Give your kid a bed time! There is nothing better than getting your kid to bed by 8:15 and being able to kick back, watch Real Housewives and drink your wine without any interruptions.

Always have wine on hand. A glass of wine (or two) after bed time is kind of just as healthy as taking your daily vitamins. Cheers!

 

 

XOXO,

 

Jordan

 

Stop and Look Up…

If you:

  • Are interested in what other people have to say online,
  • Care to know if they are interested in what you have to say online,
  • Only allow milliseconds to pass before sharing something intimate,
  • Want to share every single killer hair day with the world via selfie,
  • Work on your health only to please people you don’t know,
  • Post countless, yet pointless, pictures of your child,
  • Own a dog,
  • Are on Facebook,
  • Tweet occasionally,
  • Breathe…

You must watch this video… NOW!

 

EVERYONE is guilty of what is said in this video. I am going to start “living life the real way” by turning my phone off between 6pm and 9pm (basically between the time I pick Carson up and he goes to bed). Baby steps, yall.

What are you going to do to start?

 

XOXO,

Jordan

R-E-S-P-E-C-T for International Women’s Day

Self empowering. Self educated. Self motivated. And, most importantly, self made. These are the qualities of today’s powerful and successful women, thanks to the path that amazing women of our past led for us.

These are just a handful of the many women that are the reason where most of us are today. They are women that rebelled, that stood up for what they believed in, that didn’t rely on anyone else but themselves for their own success. And with these women, you can’t spell out the word respect without singing R-E-S-P-E-C-T, you are able to (hopefully) prevent having a farm full of kids with a little magical pill and we don’t have to wear corsets and frills everyday and can now wear loser and more comfortable clothes. And to that, I am personally very thankful.

Without these women, we wouldn’t be able to put on a suit, go to work and kick ass. We wouldn’t be able to express our ideas and opinions, innovate and be R-E-S-P-E-C-T-ed by coworkers or employers. We wouldn’t have the powerful and successful women today to look up to.

It is so refreshing knowing that the success of these women came from their own dreams, visions and goals, and they didn’t rely on a man to get them where they are today. They started their careers early, they struggled, they went through the same grind most of are going through today, they’ve failed and they came out on top. If that doesn’t make you bust out “who runs the world, GIRLS” lyrics, I don’t know what will!

Now, to the women who led the way, thank you. To the women leading the way today, don’t stop. To the women going through the struggle,  power through.

Happy International Women’s Day.

 

XOXO,

Jordan, your fellow struggler.

No Resolutions. Cake for Breakfast. More Good Beer.

New YearOh, hey 2k14!

A new year means new resolutions, right? Yeah… no. Not with me. I have actually never given myself a New Years resolution. Resolution means to resolve, kill bad habits, make new habits. Well, I don’t hate my bad habits and as I sit here, 6 days into the new  year, eating Junior Mints and watching Real Housewives of Beverly Hills, I can confidently say that I haven’t broken a resolution and am not stressing about one either.

I think a new year should mean new goals, pushing yourself to achieve those goals and eating cake for breakfast. Just kidding… I would never! Your goals have to be achievable. I know I’m not going to lose 30 pounds before one of FIVE weddings this summer. I know I’m not going to learn to cook. And, I’m probably not going to save money this year either. (That’s what a 401K is for when you’re in your early 20’s, right??)

Realistic goals, in my eyes, are goals that inspire you. Goals that you’ll kick ass at. Goals that are going to make you a better, smarter and more successful person at the end of the day, week, month or year. After all, goals can be short and long-term. I’m not going to bore you with my goals, but I challenge you to set goals for yourself. Maybe, unlike me, you can save a certain amount of money in time for a summer vaca. Maybe make it to three spin classes this week. Maybe ask your boss for that raise you know you deserve. Maybe do something outside of your comfort zone at work, in your relationship, in social settings. Go crazy!

Now, I am going to go to bed (on time) so I make it to the gym; not because I have resolutions to keep up with, but because I like to drink beer, okay!

 

Cheers and happy New 2K14!

Jordan