I am pretty sure I was born with a “go-getter” mentality. I have always figured out or have known what I wanted and -more times than not- have gotten it. I mean, obviously I have to be realistic here. I really, really want Craig Gentry, but Derek Holland recently told me he was married. Google hasn’t confirmed, so I’ll keep pursuing… 😉
There are still things I am working on “getting” in life. It’s not easy; you don’t just wake up one day with a Porsche Cayenne in your driveway with a bow and the man of your dreams (damn Christmas commercials). But with faith, optimism and perseverance, you can really get anything you want in life.
It’s mostly a mind game.
Figure out what you want- Do you want to lose weight? Do you want to make the next step in your career? Do you want a new car? Do you want to date a loser? Ah, gotcha there! But seriously, if you don’t know what you want in your dating life, you will end up with everything that you don’t want.
Get it in your head- This step is not hard at all for me. I over analyze EVERYTHING. I consider all aspects of what it is I want, what I need to do to get it and how bad I want it. I play out different scenarios in my head while wondering the thought processes of any other parties that could possibly be involved. I visualize my life changing and where I’ll be years down the road because of this “want”. It’s actually quite hilarious what I look and sound like when I’m mentally preparing myself for something. It’s all about getting ‘what you want in life’ in your head and THEN making it happen. I bought a car recently (not because it was “something I wanted in life”) and even though it’s a nice car, I will never love it because I wasn’t able to “get it in my head” before purchasing it. I found and bought the car in under 3 hours because I totaled my last one and couldn’t miss work (major moment of anxiety).
Do you still want it- Surely, after all that, you know if you want it, how bad you want it and if it is a realistic want.
Act on it- This is when you start being ballsy and busting your ass. If you’re trying to lose weight, eat healthy and be active. If you are ready to make the next step in your career, talk to the right people, prove yourself, and make moves. You’re buying a new car? Well, the only advice I have on that is to look around longer than 3 hours and find a bomb car salesman. If you’re trying to not date a loser, pursue the type of guy you WANT. Make a move. Make it clear (hard core anxiety moment mixed with hot flashes…). As much as I hate to accept this, you are more likely to get what you want when you act on it, rather than sitting back and hoping things just fall in your lap. I may be guilty of doing that for the last 5 years in a particular category.
Keep going- So, things rarely happen overnight. Because I am so quick to knowing what I want mentally, I want things to happen overnight. Let me tell you- it doesn’t. Be patient and keep going. You may have to shift a few things around and might have to sacrifice other things, but it is usually all worth it in the end.
This is your time! You go, girl!