8 Guys Single Girls Just Can’t Repel

Let’s be honest. As single ladies, we have encountered certain types of guys you’d rather not encounter again. Whether you’re on the dating scene, newly single or flying solo for a while, you can’t avoid these guys. It’s inevitable.

I’ve done my research and categorized these guys. Now, don’t get excited. These aren’t ALL guys I’ve dated. Maybe I did my research through my single girlfriends. But then again, we’re being honest…

The Professional Dater: This guy knows what he’s doing. You have a short conversation and boom- he asks you out. If you don’t jump to the idea, he’s persistent. He lets you pick the day and time, he chooses the place, and he knows how to carry the conversation and asks all the super lame interview-y questions. Then he wraps it up (the date), picks up the tab, hugs you goodbye and calls it a night.

Why is this so bad? Well, he’s so comfortable dating that he missed the whole pre-qualifying step. It’s like a blind date sans the blind. Not interested in him? He’d never know…

The Reassurance Craver: He’s needy. Run away. This guy probably just got out of a shitty relationship where he lost all of his confidence. Now, he is throwing compliments at you like he’s competing for a long stem red rose. Sure… take advantage of it! All girls need to bask in compliments every now and then, but don’t fall for it…

What’s so wrong with a guy needing some positive reinforcement from someone other than his mom? For starters, he wants you to turn all of those compliments around on him. You’ll do it. He’ll get his confidence boost. It won’t last.

The Not Seriously, Too Serious Dater: Usually with this guy, you know that you aren’t going to be FBO (Facebook Official) any time soon and you’re okay with that. You’re both just dating for fun. That is until you’re sipping your wine and holding hands as he leads you to your floor seats at a Mavs game… to be seated with-his-parents.

Sure, Mavs games are fun, but with his parents? Regardless of the “nonchalant or not” dating, no one wants or needs to meet your parents on the first date.

The Dumbass: No full time job, lives with his parents or crashing at a buddy’s and has no idea what he wants to do with his life, yet he still thinks he can find himself a girlfriend. The only thing that is getting your attention is that he is a regular texter.

Need I say more?

The Undercover Dater: You’ll find these guys online, but they’ll find you first! He doesn’t have hardly any pictures, he has a random @DallasmavsGuy username and no personal bio. Yeah, I know… all red flags already. Then he’ll start messaging you and gradually tells you about his well paying job, stable life and so on. You’re reeled in and then he asks you out.

It’s not a crime to go on an innocent date. Why not test the waters? Take a chance? Let’s just say you’ll want to know his first AND last name before committing to a date to ensure he isn’t 20+ years older than you. I’m sure it’s really awkward retracting your agreement to go on the date post last name discovery.

The Non-Settler: They think they are the absolute shit, so they are holding out for Jessica Biel. When in the long run, they are just super lonely. They text you, constantly flirts with you, he even talks to you on the phone (that’s rare), but he won’t do anything for you that would be going out of his way.

He’ll impress you enough to hold your attention, but you’re not getting anything out of it. And let’s face it, he probably isn’t your Justin Timberlake either. On to the next…

The Pre-Major Commitment Tester: He stems from the Non-Settler. Not a dater but a tester, and unfortunately, these guys do exist. They’ve been in a serious relationship and it’s about to get more serious. So they freak and go test the waters real fast to make sure they didn’t miss their Jessica Biel. They’ll find you, profess their unheard of feelings for you, you’ll fall for it, and he’ll be engaged the next day.

The Too Soon Clinger: You know that saying “give them an inch and they take a mile?” That would be this guy. You briefly give him some attention and he immediately starts the non-stop texting, makes countless (annoying) offers to hang out and just flat out won’t leave you alone. I would scream if I wasn’t already suffocating.

Don’t be completely put off by this guy. They actually mean well. Just be super blunt with them and don’t lead them on.

 

Did I miss a category? Oh, right… the actual ideal guy. Yeah, so that guy girls don’t have a hard time repelling. We can’t find them in the haystack to begin with!

 

XOXO,

Jordan

 

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Young & Fearless – Your 5 Year Plan

Marissa MayerYou’re young and trying to find your inner Marissa Mayer (CEO, Yahoo). Why Marissa Mayer? Well, she has style for one; she’s paid her way, climbed to the top and she’s not even 40! Your twenties is all about self-discovery, but don’t take advantage of this prime time!

Where do you see yourself five years from now? What do you need to do to get there? Who is in your support group? Are you on the right path?

Having an idea of where you want to be in five years is like having the middle part of your puzzle put together and all you need are the edge pieces. Are you passionate about teaching, nursing, real estate, marketing, etc.? What do you enjoy doing? What makes you happy? When you have that part down, you can then start to dream big and visualize yourself in those shoes and carrying that designer purse you paid for yourself.

Okay, back to reality. What do you need to do to get there? First, get your foot in the door! Start at where you can and learn the ends and outs of your desired industry, and most importantly, get the experience, make your contacts and do the bitch work. You aren’t going to be the CEO of Yahoo overnight. Not sure where or how to get your foot in the door? Find someone that has your “dream job” on LinkedIn. (It’s like Facebook for work!) This is a great way to see someone’s professional experience, what they’re degree is in and if they have any special certificates. Take it a step further and follow these industry leaders on Twitter and participate in industry related discussions. But wait, if you are going to take it to this level, make sure you tweet things that wouldn’t offend your grandma, better yet, a possible future employer.

Who do you have in your support group? Having influential people close to you, or an actual group of supportive people is huge. It means you’ve done something to impress these people, they trust and want what’s best for you and you look up to them. You will always have people trying to tear you down, but if the person tearing you down has a hand in you achieving your goals, separate yourself from them. What’s the point of keeping them close anyway?

Are you in the right direction? If not, don’t jump ship! Hang in there and keep an open mind. Start thinking about your future. This is YOUR time, not anyone else’s.

 

XOXO,

 

Jordan

Young & Fearless – Social Media Impulsivity

LeAnn Rimes “My boss just slammed me with a new project that is due in 2 hours.”

“My coworker is wearing his cheap cologne again…”

“I might still be drunk from last night.”

“Completely re-writing this proposal. Some people don’t know how to use a comma.”

Well, those aren’t has bad has LeAnn Rime’s social media rants that put her into rehab, but they are close! Generation Y is known to result to social media in the heat of a moment, opposed to calling a good friend or shooting a text to vent. And surprisingly enough, most of this takes place on Twitter, public Twitter profiles, where you follow industry leaders, your company handle, and possible future colleagues. Even better, they probably follow you! Use Twitter to make a name for yourself, get to know influential people in your industry, and allow them to get to know you!

Then you have Facebook. You don’t want random people emotionally invested in your struggle or your pursuit and you don’t want to necessarily decline friend requests from your favorite happy hour group. Yes, I’m saying it is okay to friend/accept friend requests from coworkers – if you do it right! Let me let you into my little secret… Facebook friends lists. Create a list for all of your coworkers that you become friends with and you can easily block that group from seeing certain things on your FB. You can even post a status update and hide it from that particular list. I have a ‘work folks’ list.

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So, tell your close friend sorry. You’ll be going to them to vent a lot more instead of venting to your following. 🙂

 

XOXO,

 

Jordan

 

You Know You’re Bitter When…

You know you’re bitter about relationships, dating or anything that has to do with love when:

  • You “un-Show In Newsfeed” everyone on Facebook that posts a mushy status update.
  • Everything they post is mushy? Instant un-friend.
  • You run away from the bouquet that is being tossed at a wedding.
  • You become that person that all of your friends go to for dating advice because you are brutally honest. Friend: “He hasn’t reached out to me in almost a week.” Me: “Stop talking to him. When he does call or text you, wait a minimum of 24 hours to respond and don’t be available when he tries to hang out with you next. Now, let’s go somewhere to drink.”
  • Someone shows interest in you and you run away, far away.
  • You have a killer social life. I mean really… You do what you want to do, when you want to do it, where you want to do it.
  • And at the same time, you’re more than content with staying home on a Friday night with a glass of wine (beer for me), Cosmo magazine, On Demand and a big fluffy blanket.
  • People ask you if you’re seeing someone and you unconsciously roll your eyes and take a deep breath.
  • Your coworkers and friends suggest online dating because they don’t see you ever changing your ways.

Okay. Yes, I am guilty of all of the above. I’m sure one day someone will come around that will change all of that. Maybe…

 

 

XOXO,

Jordan

 

 

Eli Young Band – Guinevere

 

My Temporary Apocalypse

 

The title of this blog post may be a little dramatic, but only because I managed to experience what life would be like without Facebook and a cell phone. Talk about going back in time to the 20th century. I survived 4 days without Facebook, roughly 16 hours without a phone, and am barely surviving without a smart phone. Phew… 

Your first thought was probably “What made her deactivate her Facebook in the first place?” Yes, I realize that, 9 times out of 10, people part ways with Facebook because of drama. I’ll just say I’m partial. I really just needed a break from it. I was constantly checking it when I woke up, on the elevator, at stop signs and when I got home from work. I was wasting too much of my valuable “me time” on it. Surely, I’m not the only one, right? Are there any AA type classes for Facebook addictees? So, I thought I would deactivate my FB for a week or so to “sober up”. Nothing too extreme…

I was talking to someone in my office before leaving work on Friday about going to Dallas Beerfest 2012. I had to explain to her why I couldn’t Facebook message her if I ended up going because I deactivated my account. So, we exchanged numbers and she made a comment about what the world would possibly be like without phones and how we can’t survive without phones in this day and age. Who knew I would be without my phone later that night? Shoot me. Just a few hours later, my Blackberry took a dive into a large cup of coke. Joy…

So, here I am in Uptown trying to meet up with a few different people without a phone. What do I resort to? My friend’s Facebook. So, I only partially broke my FB sobriety. Don’t judge me. 

The next morning I had a slight panic attack of what I was going to do without a phone. My life was/is on my BlackBerry, my $600 Blackberry at that. Luckily, I can text the very few numbers I have memorized from my iPad and I was able to get a hold of my mom who was also having a slight panic attack when she found out I wasn’t on Facebook. I literally had “slim to none” contact with the outside world. I’ll admit, when I wasn’t freaking out, I was kind of enjoying it.

Because I didn’t have any way of communicating with my family and close friends, I decided to get back on Facebook. Major “-_-” moment. And I am now temporarily using a Samsung Smiley. Died… I think I had a better phone than this when I was in 8th grade. 

I guess my apocalypse is slowly coming to an end, but I still feel like I’m living in the 20th century. If anyone needs to get a hold of me, call me. I can’t handle texting on this damn phone. 

 

XOXO,

 

Jordan