8 Guys Single Girls Just Can’t Repel

Let’s be honest. As single ladies, we have encountered certain types of guys you’d rather not encounter again. Whether you’re on the dating scene, newly single or flying solo for a while, you can’t avoid these guys. It’s inevitable.

I’ve done my research and categorized these guys. Now, don’t get excited. These aren’t ALL guys I’ve dated. Maybe I did my research through my single girlfriends. But then again, we’re being honest…

The Professional Dater: This guy knows what he’s doing. You have a short conversation and boom- he asks you out. If you don’t jump to the idea, he’s persistent. He lets you pick the day and time, he chooses the place, and he knows how to carry the conversation and asks all the super lame interview-y questions. Then he wraps it up (the date), picks up the tab, hugs you goodbye and calls it a night.

Why is this so bad? Well, he’s so comfortable dating that he missed the whole pre-qualifying step. It’s like a blind date sans the blind. Not interested in him? He’d never know…

The Reassurance Craver: He’s needy. Run away. This guy probably just got out of a shitty relationship where he lost all of his confidence. Now, he is throwing compliments at you like he’s competing for a long stem red rose. Sure… take advantage of it! All girls need to bask in compliments every now and then, but don’t fall for it…

What’s so wrong with a guy needing some positive reinforcement from someone other than his mom? For starters, he wants you to turn all of those compliments around on him. You’ll do it. He’ll get his confidence boost. It won’t last.

The Not Seriously, Too Serious Dater: Usually with this guy, you know that you aren’t going to be FBO (Facebook Official) any time soon and you’re okay with that. You’re both just dating for fun. That is until you’re sipping your wine and holding hands as he leads you to your floor seats at a Mavs game… to be seated with-his-parents.

Sure, Mavs games are fun, but with his parents? Regardless of the “nonchalant or not” dating, no one wants or needs to meet your parents on the first date.

The Dumbass: No full time job, lives with his parents or crashing at a buddy’s and has no idea what he wants to do with his life, yet he still thinks he can find himself a girlfriend. The only thing that is getting your attention is that he is a regular texter.

Need I say more?

The Undercover Dater: You’ll find these guys online, but they’ll find you first! He doesn’t have hardly any pictures, he has a random @DallasmavsGuy username and no personal bio. Yeah, I know… all red flags already. Then he’ll start messaging you and gradually tells you about his well paying job, stable life and so on. You’re reeled in and then he asks you out.

It’s not a crime to go on an innocent date. Why not test the waters? Take a chance? Let’s just say you’ll want to know his first AND last name before committing to a date to ensure he isn’t 20+ years older than you. I’m sure it’s really awkward retracting your agreement to go on the date post last name discovery.

The Non-Settler: They think they are the absolute shit, so they are holding out for Jessica Biel. When in the long run, they are just super lonely. They text you, constantly flirts with you, he even talks to you on the phone (that’s rare), but he won’t do anything for you that would be going out of his way.

He’ll impress you enough to hold your attention, but you’re not getting anything out of it. And let’s face it, he probably isn’t your Justin Timberlake either. On to the next…

The Pre-Major Commitment Tester: He stems from the Non-Settler. Not a dater but a tester, and unfortunately, these guys do exist. They’ve been in a serious relationship and it’s about to get more serious. So they freak and go test the waters real fast to make sure they didn’t miss their Jessica Biel. They’ll find you, profess their unheard of feelings for you, you’ll fall for it, and he’ll be engaged the next day.

The Too Soon Clinger: You know that saying “give them an inch and they take a mile?” That would be this guy. You briefly give him some attention and he immediately starts the non-stop texting, makes countless (annoying) offers to hang out and just flat out won’t leave you alone. I would scream if I wasn’t already suffocating.

Don’t be completely put off by this guy. They actually mean well. Just be super blunt with them and don’t lead them on.

 

Did I miss a category? Oh, right… the actual ideal guy. Yeah, so that guy girls don’t have a hard time repelling. We can’t find them in the haystack to begin with!

 

XOXO,

Jordan

 

Dallasbelle Rule #9: Keep Your Dating Life off of Social Media

Carrie Bradshaw BrunchMy kind of Dallasbelle is a single one; that’s why most of my blog posts speak to my fellow single ladies. And well quite frankly, I’m becoming a proud pro of the single life and have made a -few- mistakes and broken a few rules.

So, while you’re enjoying the single life with me and dating around, keep this rule in the back of your mind…

Dallasbelle Rule #9: Keep your dating life off of social media!! 

Social media is major game player in any single’s dating life. I know that there are exes that need to be made jealous and girls you want to intimidate, but letting people know the dates you’re on and the guys you’re talking to is not doing you any favors. Just don’t let social media make you look like a crazy and screw everything up for you. After all, we all love being single, but nobody wants to be single for forever.

Think about it…

  • Think of all of Carrie Bradshaw’s brunches with her gfs. Those one nighters, terrible kissers and crazy first timers should be shared with your best girlfriends over Mimosas or, if it was one of those nights, a Bloody Mary.
  • Be mysterious. Guys don’t want to know or think that you’re dating other people. But at the same time, they don’t want to think that you are 100% focused him and want to think that other guys are interested in you too. Nonchalantly and without effort, give him/them competition.
  • Not dating anyone else? I’m sorry… (Just kidding!) Pretend like you are and note the above.
  • Do NOT, for the love of God, Like, Favorite, RT, comment (whatever else) everything he puts on his profiles. That gives him an ego you don’t want him to have and you a title you don’t want to have, psycho creeper.
  • While you are in the “dating scene”, keep your social posts related to how awesome your girl friends are and how you’re killing it at work. No mushy posts based off of your initial butterflies with the dude(s), please.
  • Lastly, don’t post pictures of him, you and him, or of your dates… anywhere. Wait until you are both on the same page, AKA exclusive.

XOXO,

Jordan